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My mom is a wonderful cook. So we often have family get-togethers and not-so-formal parties. Once my uncle’s family was invited. They are a sweet couple with two naughty kids. Mom and aunt were in the kitchen- laughing and talking , as happy as two sisters-in-law could be. Meanwhile, the hot pan containing oil got imbalanced and in the process to prevent it from spilling, Mom almost deep-fried her fingers. Somehow all was set right in a moment or so, but the damage had already been done. I got mom’s first-aid done and almost rebuked her for being so careless.
Mom dipped her fingers in an ice-pack and aunt took over the cooking. After a while, my cousin, aged about 6, came to mom and said, with tears in his eyes, ”Oh my God! How did burn your finger? This little one, isn’t?” These words made Mom think, ”My own children don’t feel for me like this, while this little boy, my nephew is crying for me.”The child added,”Now who will cook the chicken ?”Mom said,”Why?Your Mom will.”He said,”Awww..” and went off to play.The child was not crying because my mom was in pain,he was in tears because he wouldn’t get to eat my mom-made food.This was a petty matter for me then.Today,this particular incident has made me pensive and contemplating.
Many of us build new relationships in life. In the course of it, we may be attracted to people due to their special qualities- may be they have some material things which we have longed to possess. We forge our attraction as true love and go ahead with it. When we see that particular material (worldly) attribute missing in our chosen person, we find our love waning. Our faith in relationship stems out of the wealth, looks and success the person owns. And its ultimate truth that all these are not forever.
What matters is pure unconditional love and attachment in a relationship.

[I hope I didn’t bore my readers this time. I tried to write a short story but now I’ve three of them incomplete. I don’t know why I’ve become so un-creative.I want my readers to give me their opinion on this post.]

A big thank-you to Phoenix and little Priya Joyce (PJ) for THE BUTTERFLY AWARD.

Yet another big thank-you to Sam for THE AZAD AND UNMUKT BLOGGER AWARD.

Thanx a ton Lena for THE LOVELY BLOGGER AWARD.

Thanx a lot Mayz for THE PIXIE AWARD.


ANWESA said…
@All my readers,
no,i'm not going through a rough time in life.Its just that i became thoughtful,may be for a change.I'm the same happy as ever before,cheery,chatty blogger.
Hemanth Potluri said…
relation ship wat everyone is not ready to give these days....i told my incident abt money less wallet in a post :)...i need to say the way u said was correct ...but...anwe all people r not the same ....parents love is unbeatable and i dont want to miss that for a million too :)...may be i am rude some times does not die :)...nice read anwe ..:)..

Hemanth Potluri said…
i know ur not sad but ur always cheer full :)..u make me smile anwe :)

Tara said…
That's very true Anwesa! Because we feel a bond with someone because they possess something, and once they no longer possess that, whoosh..disappeared from our memory! It's a materialistic world.

Perhaps, that's the beauty of Blogsville. We don't know each other personally, but words are what keeps us connected, and words is all we have. So, in a way it's that unconditional love, that you talk about, that is the essence of Blogsville na? Beautiful. :)
Art and Poetry said…
I found your post very interesting and not at all boring, relationships and love are the most difficult thing to understand.
Harshita said…
wow! wat a thought process... now u surprised me again :)

I agree with you on this.

Great post.
ANWESA said…
@Hemanth potluri,
thanx 4 d compliments,i merely wanted to say dat one shud recognize true feelings n take time 2 build a new relationship.
sometimes haste leads to waste.
glad 2 c u bac in bloggerville..
ANWESA said…
thanx 4 ur comments,it is d essence of my post.
yes,ego clashes n all d real world problems dont xsist in in a way,its unconditional.
ANWESA said…
@art and poetry,
thanx frnd!!n i'm tryin 2 understand dem..
ANWESA said…
thanx dear!!i'v realized dat even mundane things teach gr8 lessons.
oh..i surprised u again...
Anonymous said…
Thats good post Anwesa :)

Relationships which are blood ones are only the ones to be all depend on the "context", once the context wanes, so do the relationships.....

my experience.....
Priya said…
Life is itself a choice and so does relationship. Not everyone can bond easily with others and people who can cherish it.
ANWESA said…
i appreciate ur views,but sometimes blood relationships can b fake too.i'v seen ppl without any biological relationship 2 b best chums all depends on intent of relationship,d amt of luv,faith n understandin 1 puts into it. keep visiting..
RiverSoul said…
What makes you think it was boring?
Its very thoughtful really.
Reminds me this saying
You always hurt the ones you love

If yes, then why?
A difficult question to answer. . . .

Very well written, Anwesa
ANWESA said…
it took me long 2 absorb ur comments.its tru dat all r not same
but we can try n understand d relationship xistin in ur lives.if life is an option,wats d other option?
Aparna (Appy) said…
aww hope your mum is fine now and you all had a great day?

ANWESA said…
thanx 4 reading it,yes,we often hurt our chums,mayb coz we take dem 4 granted or we kno dat we can patch it up later.we dont feel guilty abt hurtin strangers coz we r least interested in dem.
ANWESA said…
dis incident took place abt 3 yrs ago,n ya,we managed 2 njoy d gathering.
Anonymous said…
Hey Anwesa, an award for you on my blog, come check it :)
ANWESA said…
thanx a lot frnd!!i'v displayed it in my blog.

@all my readers,
it has been raining awards 4 me-2 awards in 1 de!!!wow!!!i'm on 77th heaven!!!
Anonymous said…
Wow, such a imple incident can set you thinking-can't it? You write well-really liked your blog. am blogrolling you...
ANWESA said…
thanx 4 reading dear..d thot came 3 yrs later..n thanx 4 blogrollin me..
peter said…
sad :(

unfortunately not in family relationships but in friendships also ..similar cases happen :(

but then it's life and it cant be perfect !
Mampi said…
Arrey, it is not un-creative at all. I loved it. In fact my weekend was spent thinking on these very lines-and here I come and you have written it all... given words to my thoughts. It was such a great observation.
Phoenix said…
im glad you liked the award... thanks for putting it up!!
first of all - not boring, no not at all.

a bit different this time. loved it.
how small an incident can trigger such huge contemplations... also glad to know it was 3 yrs ago. ( dkl days :) ??).

Again, I wish I had more time to reflect on this post. (haha btw, 4 days to go !! end-sems ovr !after that time hi time hai.)

Three incomplete stories?!! Excited! n waiting !
ANWESA said…
thanx 4 reading it..n yes,it happens in all kinda relationships.
well,lyf's nvr perfect,we shud try 2 make it happy.
ANWESA said…
thanx a lot!!ur words meant much 2 me,particularly on this post..i wud luv 2 read mor of ur posts..
ANWESA said…
thanx dear! n welcome too!!u dint read d post??
CяŷştąŁ said…
Not so much in family life,but I think its more in friendship and other such stuff.
But the thought process was totally well measured up..and what you said was the complete and unbiased truth..kudos for that!

And complete your 3stories..m waiting!
CяŷştąŁ said…
Finally started following yr blog to not miss a single post..start doing the same if you wish to..just ta keep track of my posts as well :)
ANWESA said…
@abhishek sim,
ur actually my most careful reader!!i'm amazed!!u read d comments tooo!!gr8 2 kno dat!!
n thanx 4 ur beautiful comments..
its not dkl dez,it was in d later half of '05-i was in 12th.time flies real fast!!!i kno u'll shine in ur sems..n dont get too happy abt dose 3 incomplete stories,all of dem were a kinda romantic stories n i cudnt deal wid dem properly,mayb i dunno how 2 end dem.when i read dem,it seems 2 b absolute trash.
God,help me complete or 4get dem!!!
ANWESA said…
thanx 4 readind gal!its rare in family coz family system is alive n kickin in india.its abt building relationships dat u hope will last a lyftym.
thanx 4 followin d blog,i'll blogroll u soon.keep blogging..
pj said…
awww...such a touching incident...

its sad that we always look at the material things while finding love in someone,its only later when we know what real love is that we realise how little these things matter in true love.
alok said…
Hehehe! bache akhir bache hein, maan ke sache, itna sochna nahi hai.

'Love' or ‘unconditional love’ or 'true love' or …. ‘xyz love’, sometime I wonder do we really need to add a pre-fix there ? but nevertheless I guess everyone of us like to see some changes that would keep the things same. And now I don’t know what I am talking about 'change for same???' :)

P.S : I hope, now your mom is doing well.
alok said…
Oh! I missed, “The condition is there should not be a condition, i.e. unconditional???”
Lena said…
i would say dear unconditional loveis something which doesnt depend on what the other person possess. It is rather the ability to love the other person without asking anything in return, not to expect things, gestures, words, care, but to do it yourself because to love someone is much above being loved in unconditional love :)
--xh-- said…
true,, many times, we just see our friends for the special qualities they have - not for what they are...

thnx for the reminder :)
ANWESA said…
thanx 4 readin n postin ur comment.
luvd ur feedbac..
ANWESA said…
well,sumtyms its gud 4 children 2
well yes,ur comment really set me confused.errr..
keep visitin..n this incident happened 3 yrs ago..
ANWESA said…
dat was a fresh perspective..thanx 4 reading..
ANWESA said…
thanx 4 readin n appreciatin ..
keep bloggin n visitin..
Priya Joyce said…
wow wat a post..the whole post ....was reely nice..the last line..its so very true re


u deserved the award
ANWESA said…
@lil' priya joyce,
thanx 4 d award has been literally rainin awards 4 me since yesterde..n thanx a lot 4 likin d post..keep blogging..
Aneesh said…
Hey cheery chatty blogger,
the first sentence itself made me hungry. I always like good cooks :)
Kitchen accident? Yup! I myself have got such accidents, most of them 'coz of carelessness, though only a few times, I went into kitchen. So, you could imagine the probability of accident if I go to kitchen?
And about unconditional love? you are correct. well, those kind of love are rare now. People always look for someone they like, then try to love them, some just pretend to love, some lose patience pretty early and give up. If we have someone who can love us unconditionally what else do we need, eh?.
BTW, all of my comments are pretty late, LOL, Sorry. I've commented on all the posts.. do check it out.
Aneesh said…
OOps forgot! its raining awards!!
ANWESA said…
thanx 4 reading!liked ur comment n gonna chek all d posts..keep blogging..
Kartz said…
"What matters is pure unconditional love and attachment in a relationship."
- hmmm... Sums it up.

Neato... Keep the pen busy! :)

ANWESA said…
trying 2 keep d pen busy..
Rocky said…
everytime I see your blog, you come up with an interesting article. I wonder if i would see any non-interesting.
Coming to the talk about relationships, I guess every relation loses its charm after some time.
and by the time you think you should work on a relation, you are not sure what should be the action plan :D
ANWESA said…
thanx 4 d ncouraging lines..
real relationships grow sweeter each day n fake ones crumble.
recall ur 1st meetin with sum1 u really lyk n i guess,u'v bonded ovr tym.of course,der is no action plan 2 save a relationship.

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